In love, as in dance, Joshua Zamora and Jopay Paguia are in perfect sync. Joshua rose to fame as part of Gary Valenciano’s Manoeuvers, while Jopay was a mainstay on GMA-7 as one of the Sexbomb Dancers. Nine years after they first got together, they finally tied the knot on June 6, 2014.
In one of their last interviews before becoming husband and wife, Jopay and Joshua visited “Tonight with Arnold Clavio” to share their love story. They shared their advice on keeping a healthy, happy relationship — and taking it all the way to the altar.
1. It doesn’t have to be “love at first sight”
Jopay and Joshua, who call each other “Basya” and “Babas”, met on the set of GMA-7’s afternoon soap “Daisy Siyete.” It wasn’t love at first sight for either of them, and Joshua was even disappointed that his character’s love interest was played by Jopay instead of Rochelle Pangilinan! As for Jopay, she wasn’t interested either.
“Ang tingin ko kasi sa kanya, parang babaero ito,” she says. “Wala ako masyadong pakialam sa mga lalaki noon, trabaho lang muna talaga.” Their colleagues wanted them to get together, though, to the point that the other Sexbomb Dancers stole Joshua’s file photo from the art department and gave it to Jopay.
For Joshua, he began to have feelings for Jopay while sharing meals. Jopay recalls, “Ang gusto ko kasi sa kanya, mabait. At kapag kausap mo siya, mas sense ‘yung mga sinasabi niya.”
2. Be best friends
The two became friends and business partners before falling in love. The secret, it seems, is to have an understanding of each other that extends beyond romantic borders. They know everything about each other, from each one’s favorite food to their favorite song to dance to, to which food each refuses to eat.
3. Accept the past and move on
Living in the past stops you from appreciating the present and building a future. Nobody’s perfect, and Jopay and Joshua agree that loving means accepting your partner for who they are.
Joshua has two sons from previous relationships: a 22-year-old, and a 14-year-old. “Wala talaga akong idea noong una,” she recalls. “Pero noong nalaman ko, magkaibigan pa kami. Hindi ko rin naman in-expect na magiging kami.”
Instead of bolting, Jopay made Joshua’s sons a part of her life. “Napakabait na bata. Napakaswerte [ni Joshua] sa mga anak niya,” she says.
4. Love is sweeter the second time around
Joshua and Jopay have been together for around nine years, but it get complicated when they try to give an exact number. See, the two broke up for two years. They were already engaged, but Joshua got cold feet a month before the wedding. “Engaged na ulit, pero na-disengage before,” admits Jopay. “Sabi niya ayaw muna niyang magpakasal...hanggang sa nag-break na kami.”
“Ang hirap din,” Joshua admitted. “Ayos na lahat, pero hindi ako ready.” In 2012, two years after they broke up, they both attended a party for work. Joshua decided to serenade Jopay with series of songs by Gary Valenciano. One of these was was “Reaching Out,” which went: What must I do to make you understand / You mean everything to me / Don’t have the strength to say / Give this heart of mine a chance / And maybe then you will see.
Jopay felt awkward at the time. “Heto ako, nagmo-move on na ako tapos...ano ba?” It took another year before Jopay let Joshua court her again.
5. Find the center of your relationship
For Jopay and Joshua, their center is God. “[We got back together] around the same time na naging active kami sa church,” Jopay says. Joshua adds, “Churchgoers naman kami dati pa pero iba ‘yung active.”
“‘Yung time na nagkahiwalay tayo, it was a blessing in disguise,” Joshua tells Jopay. “Nabalik tayo kung saan tayo dapat. ‘Yung mas mahalin mo siya Christ kaysa sa akin, ibang grace na ang mabibigay sa atin.” Whatever glue binds your relationship together, find it and nurture it.
6. Make every day count
Every day is a chance to make memories with your loved one, and it’s up to you whether those memories will be good or bad. As second-chance lovers, Jopay and Joshua know this better than most. As Jopay put it: “Sabi ko, sana pahalagahan niya, kasi second chance na ito. Kung hindi pa ito ‘yun, ayoko na.”
Source: http://www.gmanetwork.com/news/story/366924/newstv/tonightwitharnoldclavio/one-more-chance-joshua-zamora-and-jopay-paguia-share-tips-on-second-chance-love
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